Sexual Intelligence Fascilitated Therapy
SIFT is a process that explores the human imagination and desires.It is about experiencing and fascilitating them. It also integrates the exploration of feelings and the different types of emotions attached to fantasies and sexual scenarios by talking about them and then experiencing them in a specifically designed context and scenario.Then the physical and mental responses learnt from the SIFT process are discussed with the fasilitator and used to create tools and knowlege for heightening sexual awareness and enjoyment. It is carried out with a professional therapist, in a safe, uniquely designed space and specifically created for each individuals need.
It is designed for individuals and couples who want to learn skills to have heightened sexual experiences,to explore and learn about the importance of the human imagination,and how to have new experiences through play.
John came to my studio last year, fantasising about “What will it feel like to have someone tie me up and blindfold me and slowly tease every inch of my body, yet have no sexual release?”
For years he had longed for somthing more than the traditional constructs and constraints of sex .He wanted to know what it felt like not to be a John, not to be Jan and Davids son. or the financial advisor from the city, or the Ex – (bastard)Husband ,the crap Golfer,or even Dad .
For once, he wanted NOT to know what was coming,NOT to have to orchestrate everything,NOT to see,NOT to be able to move,NOT to have to make decisions.Not to be everything to everyone else and never knowing what it was like to be just himself.
He wanted to know what it would be like to be touched EVERYWHERE,to hear someone talking to him about things they might do to him, just the thoughts and the images he had created in his mind excited him,and made him feel incredible.What would it be like to experience it? WHat would it be like to not be John and become anything…..
John made a decision he was going to explore his imagination before it was too late.
But how could he experience it? He didnt want sex but he wanted to experience somthing his imagination kept creating,and he wanted to know what it was he kept feeling….no words seemed to describe it other than more exciting than he had felt before.
He eventually stumbled across a talk I had given on You Tube and booked a Discovery Call with me…..then a series of sessions in London, then my Hampshire studio.
The tecniques I have trained in and developed allowed John to achieve what it was he had been looking for.
To share how he had been feeling and how he had been thinking, about sexual desires,thoughts feelings and emotions was mind blowing for him.
John was not judged
John was not ignored
Simply listended to as he talked about himself.
In a safe space……with a trusted person.
He experienced what it is like to be completely free to discover new sensations feelings and thoughts that he had never had before,by just being able to talk honestly.
He learnt how to become more sexually aware of his mind and body,he also found out things about himself that he wasnt aware of.
He learnt how, and why the mind uses imagination, and, how he can use it for his advantage.
To you,the reader I would suggest John has become more sexually intelligent-he has turned his mind on to what is beyond and above the framework of traditional sex. That there is more than just one way to have sexual pleasure. You can have incredible pleasure without sex! Just your mind! If,you learn how to….
Just by taking the time to listen to himself,then talk to the right person about what he was feeling gave John the key to more fulfiling sexual experiences,and freedom of being.
He has learnt how to achieve extended pleasure ,wellness, excitement, freedom and self awareness, he has learnt what it is like to have true sexual intelligence and liberation,
Subsequently John uses the same strategy of SIFT in other areas of his life,not just his sexual intelligence.
He has been true to his feelings and imagination expanding his business and learnt to reconnect sexually with his partner and explore what it is like to ‘play’ with each other versus ‘working’ to the expectations and limits of traditional sex.
Overall John describes his life now as flourishing….
Now,more than ever before in mankind we need to become aware of what being a human is truly all about
And if you dont know,well you need to learn how to!
We need to take a quantum leap beyond what we have been taught, and experienced so far in our small life time. We need to go beyond the rules and the societal frameworks and GROW
I am an advocate of self awareness- through learning to listen to human feelings ,thoughts our enviroment and learning the fundamentals of human needs for survival and well being.
My mission is to make people more aware of the importance of sexual intelligence but more importantly human intelligence.
By Positive Learning through Experience.