The wonderful Nicholas Tanek is a very interesting man and I suggest you look at the vast array of work he has done covering the fascinating subject we have labelled Kink.
I did an interview with him last month
I challenge the reality we all live in now,in our waking state,I suggest it is in fact the real bondage,masochism and domination.The vast population is trapped in underpaid,undervalued jobs, bound up in fear of the future, frustrations from the past,and living in a perpetual mild state of stress. We have lost the power of freedom of speech and being human and true to what we feel.
I suggest that fantasy exploration is actually all about freedom ( Free from Domination) and an innate tool for healing and self awareness and growth.
“Madame C has over 3 decades of working with individuals and couples from from all over the world wanting to explore their imagination, feelings, and questions surrounding alternative sexual play, fantasy and life
Trained in counselling, neuro linguistic programming , hypnosis ,and a wide range of physical therapies she has combined research from neuroscience, quantum physics, biology,neuroplasticity and Eastern philosophies with 30 years feedback and research from her clients.
From these facts and observations she suggests the reality we all live in now,in our waking state, is in fact the real bondage,masochism and domination( BDSM) and that the present social understanding of Kink and BDSM are not true. Kinky play and BDSM is in fact “Free” from everything society claims it to be.
Play and kink, is in true essence a freedom , it is about being “in control” -not handing over control.
It allows us the control to make the choices to explore ones mind,and body,and other peoples minds and body.
It promotes consensual intimate relationships,based on trust, understanding,openness from the start and communication without judgement- A very stark contrast to how relationships are traditionally formed in society.
Kink and play also sits outside the framework of the archaic outdated sexual act theory of “orgasmic completion”.Both partners in traditional sex immediately put physical expectations and needs on each other, quite often without even discussing it, and end up worrying about their performance as opposed to enjoying the shared experience.
Fantasy and Kink is in fact a simple innate human tool that is inherent in all of us.
When understood ,and rebranded as what actually is ,not what it is not, it is the perfect life tool that can teach an individual to always think outside of the box,look beyond what we think is a horizon line, and, learn about yourself without judgement,self doubt or guilt.
Anyway-Go check it out- and have a listen.
Check out the link and have a listen.
https://yourkinkyfriends.com/2019/02/09/madamec/